A long time ago I stood in the kitchen of our family home having a conversation with my mother. Okay, it wasn't really a conversation, it was an argument. I was about 13 years old and wanted to go next store to see my friend Brenda. My mother had told me that I could not go and I was unhappy with her decision. While that was certainly not the first, nor the last time my mother and I disagreed, I have never forgotten what came next. Although I've never been able to remember her exact words, I clearly remember replying "That's apparent," meaning that her point was obvious. My mother promptly slapped me across the face, in what may be referred to as a 'knee jerk' reaction ("an immediate unthinking emotional reaction produced by an event or statement to which the reacting person is highly sensitive; in persons with strong feelings on a topic, it may be very predictable" per Merriam-Webster). Shocked and confused, I asked her why she had lashed out at me. She thought I was being a smart aleck and had said "That's a parent!"
The definition of the word apparent is "clearly visible, obvious" and "manifest to the senses or mind as real or true on the basis of evidence that may or may not be factually valid" (Merriam-Webster). Whether a family is created through birth, adoption or other circumstances, children do not come with owner's manuals and parents are often poorly or inadequately prepared for their new roles. The process of becoming and being a parent also evokes a variety of strong feelings and emotions, including joy, pride, love, guilt, fear, anger, and frustration. Being a parent is also a huge personal, legal, and social responsibility. However, since our roles, duties, or paths as parents are not always clearly visible, or obvious, we often engage in 'knee jerk' reactions instead of making fully informed decisions based on evidence, facts, and research, which is especially important when we are dealing with topics such as healthy infant and child development, safe sleep, positive discipline, nutrition, adoption, divorce, co-parenting, re-parenting, finances, family goals, child and family health, children leaving home, empty-nest, parenting adult children, grandparenting, chores, bullying, sex, drugs, and pretty much anything else that parents have to deal with. That's where having a parent or family coach comes in!
Time, experience, and education have proven to be wise teachers. As the mother of 3 birth daughters, and a step-son, I have over 40 years of direct parenting experience. I am also divorced, re-married and have a blended family, which has provided me with first-hand insight into these experiences.
I am also adopted, and was fortunate enough to find my birth family. I was able to meet my birth mother before she died and ask the questions that I had held in my heart for years: 1) Why did you give me up? and 2) Did you ever think of me? Through the process of finding my birth family I also discovered 97 new relatives including two half-sisters and a 'full-blood' sister who had also been given up for adoption 3 years before I was born.
While I don't profess to know all the answers (does anyone?!?), what I can tell you is that I am confident that you and your family will benefit from having a parent or family coach. I invite you to fill out a Contact Form today so that we can schedule a free 30 minute consultation.